Something that has really been on my mind lately is how girls treat other girls. We are raised in a society where we are taught to judge and compete with our female peers. From judging female celebrities and models on their face, body, lifestyle, and everything in between, to judging our girlfriends and peers. We judge the girl in our 8am for dressing up for class, we judge our best friend for not putting on makeup on a night out, we judge the Kardashians for literally everything that they do. We need to chill. In a world where everything else is against us, we need to stand together.
Why must we break other girls down to build ourselves up? We are all beautiful and unique in our own right and there is no one that is better than anyone else because of it. This is something that I still need to work on. Something I struggle the most with is judging girls (and boys) on their makeup application. I have a lot of knowledge and talent for makeup, and sometimes I forget that people don’t have the same knowledge or expertise that I do. I constantly find myself looking at people’s makeup and assessing how they could do it better and criticizing it. I forget that everyone needs to start somewhere, and instead of judging them, I should help them, or point them in the right direction, without putting down the current skills. I also CONSTANTLY compare myself to whoever is getting the attention from whatever guy that I like. Literally, what is the point of any of this? At some point or another, I’ve been the girl that was talking to the boy that someone liked. We’ve all been there. So stop judging other girls and move on. It hurts yourself and whoever it is targeted at.
If someone posts something on social media, it means they like it, so don’t over analyze it and pick apart every flaw. If someone wore a lipstick shade that might not suit their skin tone, who cares, they liked it enough to wear it out. If someone is talking to the boy you like, calm down, you don’t have dibs (unless you are literally dating that person in which case still calm down because you should trust your S/O to not cheat on you, and if you don’t that’s a whole other issue that I’m not about to get into).
How can we, as women, take down The Man if we’re too busy taking down each other??? Redirect the anger and jealousy and turn it into feminism, including all women, and make the world a better place for ourselves and the future girls of the world. I’m not saying I’m the perfect person, but I’m trying. I don’t want to judge girls because I don’t want girls to judge me.