I wrote a blog post called No Judge Zone a few months back, but I feel the need to reiterate the topic. My entire life I’d held the standard that girls judge girls, no ifs ands or buts, and more recently it’s dawned on me how f**king stupid that is. Why do we, as females, have to pit each other against one another? As a person who has many qualities that people could judge, I’m fat, loud, have acne, I can be a slob, I talk A LOT, the list truly goes on, why the f**k would I want to judge someone else if I know that the same attitude would hurt my feelings. Nothing I do in life is to deliberately hurt anyone, and to the best of my knowledge, nothing I have done has hurt anyone (might need a fact check on this one lmk), and I know that most people are the same way. I try so unbelievably hard not to make snap judgements based on appearances, social media posts, first meetings, or anything else. It’s hard, but I’m constantly reminding myself that I would be upset if someone judged me the same way I judged them. It’s amazing how much better life is when you stop caring about what others do. It honestly feels like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, as strange as it sounds.
My new goal is to stop my friends and people I interact with from making snap judgments as well. I’ve let a lot of friends get away with judgmental comments that would truly hurt the person they’re about had they heard them, and I’ve had enough. Who cares if that person got a tattoo you don’t like, or a job that seems stupid, or did something you would have never done. It’s so pointless to judge people and gossip about people that you’re friends with, and even more pointless to do it about people you don’t know. Now, I’m not saying that I’m going to stop gossiping forever, if you know me you know I love tea, but if you catch me being judgemental please give me a firm slap and tell me to stfu, you have my permission.
Anyways, don’t judge people. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.